Hey, Lovies!
Are you ready to get your groove back? Ready to get it on?
If you are, then you are tuning in at the right time.
Sharing intimacy with your beau (same or new) is the most amazing experience you can ever have!
But, are you sure you are doing the right things to prepare for that very special moment?
If you are not quite sure, you are not alone.
I have found that many other young lovies don’t have a clue either.
Sharing your innermost soul is a huge decision and it is important that you are on the right path.
If you browse through these 10 reasons (and tips) in this article, in no time, you will be on your way to a premium start in your sex life!
But, just before we get there, I want you to do a favor for me.
I need you to share this post with all your girlfriends!
You are a part of the process by empowering the women you love with good knowledge!
So let’s get into why you need these tips.
Knowing your body
Believe it or not, many lovies are still CLUELESS about their pelvic organs.
There are many women who have no idea which hole the pee or the discharge comes from!
In my mind, these are the basics!
I thought most of us would have learned this in science class before we even knew what a menstrual period was!
At least that was my first introduction to the female anatomy.
Well, I was wrong!
Because this has become an all too common occurrence.
I was forced to conclude, then, that the young lovies are incorrectly exploring their bodies.
Look at it this way: there is no point digging for buried treasure if you do not have a map with clues about the location of your precious treasure.
I know it’s your body.
And quite frankly, you ARE free to explore.
BUT, I know it’s best done when you have a guide with adequate knowledge.
This is where the Ob&Gyn comes in.
We know exactly what to tell you!
We give you the right foundation to be empowered to make good decisions about YOUR reproductive health.
The experience matters
The topic or sex or love-making is still quite taboo.
There are still many misconceptions tied to it.
But, we know that the first time is always special and will be remembered and forever sealed in our hearts.
Therefore, it’s in your best interest to ensure that nothing will stop you from having a memorable and wonderful experience.
Virgin or not?
These tips are not exclusive to my virgin lovies.
They are still relevant to all women who have given their beau a piece of the ‘cookie’.
For what its worth, you may very well end up learning something new which proves very applicable to you.
Already had a bad experience?
If you are one of many women who may have had multiple bad experiences with sex and just need help, I have something here for you too!
You are most likely to benefit from a talk right now with your Ob&Gyn.
So, no need to skip these tips.
Just keep reading!
I hope you are now feeling eager and excited to get these reasons and tips.
Let’s get this party started!
Here are the top 10 reasons you should visit your Ob&Gyn specialist before you start having sex (again)
#1 You have no clue how your sex organs work
As I said above, many girls are not sure what comes from which hole in their rosy section.
These exits are just the tip of the iceberg.
They are just a small fraction of all the organs involved when you are getting your groove on.
So, what do you know?
- Do you know enough about your vagina, cervix and uterus (womb)?
- Are you aware of the needs of these delicate organs?
- Do you know how healthy they are, and what they need to stay well?
These are important questions to consider this before you even start thinking about having a groove.
Furthermore, if you don’t know the answers yet, its time to have a chat with your Gyno.
You should ask him/her to give you an overview of where these delicate and perfectly made organs are located, the purpose they serve and what you can do to keep them healthy.
***I will tell you the answers in another post***
I’ll give you a well-rounded introduction of how they work for you and how you can make them work wonders for you!
#2 You need to know and engage in safer sex practices
The dark age is slowly coming to an end, so we should all have heard about abstinence and condoms.
These are the only two methods of safer sex practices which have been proven to be successful.
And, for your benefit, safer sex is the use of a method to prevent diseases or infections caused by sexual contact.
HIV/AIDS Lesson
Safer sex is endorsed globally due to the dreadful effects of the HIV/AIDS condition.
We know that the HIV/AIDS epidemic is still going on.
And, we are not yet out of the woods.
The current stats from the World Health Organization (WHO) release for World AIDS Day 2018 celebration on December 1st are indicating that:
- At least 37 million persons worldwide live with HIV.
- Unfortunately, only 22 million are on treatment.
- Therefore, over 15 million persons, who probably have no idea of their status and are not on any treatment, may be unknowingly spreading this infection.
- Hence, approximately 1.8 million persons became newly infected.
THIS IS THE INFO YOU NEED TO KNOW!
Therefore, you must see your doctor quickly to learn how you can engage in safer sex practices.
This is for preventing the HIV infection and all the other forms of sexually transmitted infections such as genital herpes, gonorrhea, syphilis and chlamydia.
Therefore, let me ask you!
(A) How much do you know about safer sex practices?
(B) And, have you been engaged in safer sex practices?
#3 You will need a contraceptive option
Getting pregnant may be the last thing on your mind when the love-making starts.
Therefore, before you even get to that point, we help you choose the best methods.
We are the navigator you will need to guide you through the sea of options.
But, what types of contraceptives exist?
Contraceptives can either be hormonal-based or non-hormonal based
The hormonal methods include pills, injections and implants
Non-hormonal methods include physical barrier devices like cervical caps and diaphragms which cover and shield your cervix.
Now, if I go any deeper with the different contraceptive methods, this post will turn into a TMI disaster
So, be sure to read the post on types of contraceptives .
But, lovies, DON’T SWEAT THIS PART.
Just go to your Ob&Gyn and they will provide a world of help.
It’s easy as 1-2-3!
#4 You need to be tested for any STDs
You should always be aware of your status.
Contracting a sexually transmitted disease (STD) is the last thing you want to deal with.
These bugs are really nasty and can mess you up pretty badly.
As a matter of fact, they can WRECK YOUR SEX LIFE!
Most if not all can damage the pelvic organs and are known to cause infertility.
The popular culprits are HIV/AIDS, Gonorrhea and chlamydia.
On the World AIDS Day 2018 celebration, it was reported that every year, at least 1 million persons die from HIV/AIDS and they didn’t even know their status.
With that said, you and your partner should be tested for STDs BEFORE you start taking off each other’s clothes and getting your groove on in bed.
#5. You need to have your pap smear done
The health of your cervix is so important to you and to us.
The common, sexually transmitted human papillomavirus (HPV) bug often attacks the cervix.
If unnoticed, this little bugger can wreak havoc on your life!!!!
After all, HPV is responsible for 98% of cervical cancer cases.
The pap smear is our tool to check if the HPV has gotten into your body and if it has caused any pre-cancerous changes in the lining of your cervix!
Hence, your pap smear is of utmost important!
Consider your pap smear as a best friend who will have your back and tell you if you are on the right path to health or if you are heading for some real dangers!
Once we see any precancerous changes, we start treatment right away as PREVENTION IS BETTER THAN CURE!
So, give yourself the best and get your cervix assessed.
Once, its fine, you are free to live your life until you are due for another pap smear; usually in 3 years’ time.
BTW, pap smears ought to be done on all females 21 years and older whether you have been sexually active or not.
#6. You want to end bad experiences and get better satisfaction
Of course, all women want to experience the much talked about ORGASM.
We all want to know where the G-SPOT is because we want to ignite our pleasure centers.
Your gynecologist can help you find it and improving the quality of your sex life
On the other hand, what if you are having problems with your sex life? And I mean serious problems?
Bad experiences can range from pure shyness to severe pain (dyspareunia) during intercourse.
You need to have a talk with your doctor for sure!
Pain, bleeding and dissatisfaction is not acceptable in our book.
Sexual problems can happen if you already have a gynecological condition such as Endometriosis or Fibroids.
Women who may have suffered sexual abuse in the past are especially affected. Vaginismus (severe painful vaginal spasms), a crippling condition, often affect such women.
Talking to your Ob&Gyn can begin the process of your healing.
You do not have to continue having bad experiences.
There are solutions for all these problems and it starts with this visit to your Ob&Gyn.
#7. You need to know the abnormal signs
Abnormal signs of gynecology diseases may come to the surface when you start having sex.
These can range from things like bleeding, pain, numbness, tingling, soreness, ulcers, bumps and warts.
As I told you before, PREVENTION is always better than cure.
Scheduling this chat with your Gyno will reveal the causes of these diseases and ensure that you come in for treatment early before it is too late.
#8. You need to create your own fertility goals
At this visit, it’s important to set a fertility calendar and create a guide that you can follow.
If you at least have an idea of when you want to start trying for kids from the get-go, we will be able to guide you to make the right choices at the right time.
We also will do the necessary checks over the years to ensure you have the best chances of natural conception.
We want you to stay in control of your own fertility before it’s too late.
#9. You need reassurance and peace of mind
You may need reassurance from time to time regarding how comfortable you are with your sexual health as you age.
Your thoughts of sex will change as your bio-, psycho- and social state and demands change with your age.
We want you to be comfortable in your own skin and enjoy what gives you pleasure when you want to.
Who better to speak with other than the doctor who specializes in sexual reproductive health?
#10. You do not need to feel shame about your sexuality
We want to break down barriers of shame regarding sexual health.
It’s such a minority in the office talk conversations with your doctor, yet still it’s such a major part of your overall satisfaction in life!
What good is perfect physical health if you cannot enjoy your sexual health?
After all, isn’t this what makes you distinctly female and woman?
You have the power in your hands
Give yourself the best experience
Lovies, take charge of you and get comfortable with your sexual health.
You deserve to have a happy life.
You should include your partner in the talks too. He needs to know how he can give you pleasure in a way you will appreciate forever.
The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) even endorses those reasons, especially for women 21 years and younger. I recently came across a really cool infographic they created for it. You should check it out!
Keep reading for more exciting info on sexual health.
Have a beautiful day!
XOXO
